February 28, 2013

On staying positive and picking up the pieces


We all have our bad days don't we?

And we’ve all gotten consoled by the ones who love and care about us. We hear the same thing over and over, like "it will be okay" and "you will get through this" and "something better is going to happen soon". Then we nod and nod, and say "yes, you're right".

Even though in the back of our minds, we might continue to dwell or disagree. It’s so easy to just stay mopey and damn our lives for our unfortunate luck, bad mojo or whatever. But the reality is, we aren’t the only ones who have gone through hard times, and those who have, well... they survived and got through it. So today, I listened to my friends and believe in their kind words. So, yes, I will get through this and if you are going through a rough patch, you will get out of it too. 

I think it's okay to mope. But only for a little. Just because I believe we have to let ourselves be real with our feelings. You have to give yourself time to release and bust out the Kleenex, the ice cream, the movies and curl up in bed and just… let go.

And then after the last tear drops and the sniffles stops, pick yourself back up and try again. Remind yourself that you have been given another chance to do something greater, and better things that are coming in the most unexpected way. You just have to believe it and realize that it's true, even though it's hard to see it now. And then when it happens, you will have to remember that moment when you started to believe.

I'm taking my own advice here and will be practicing these 3 tips to piece myself together again and move on. I hope you will too!

Don't go looking for the negatives in the situation
It's easy to get wrapped up in all the bad that comes with the situation. If you just look at that, you will probably find yourself knee deep in muck and unearth more feelings of resentment or disappointment that is not necessary. You don't want to go there. Instead, look for something else. Look for Waldo. Look for a new book. Look for something to do. Just look for something to keep you happy while you put the pieces together again.

Get up and go for a quick run
Exercise has been proven time and time again to relieve stress and increase happiness. Just 5 minutes can improve your mood and self-esteem. Don't like running? Pretend you are in the midst of a zombie apocalypse and you are being chased by a horde of the undead. Keeps running pretty interesting I think, especially if you're like me and love all things zombies. And if you're totally against running, perhaps another type of exercise. But the point is to put away the Kleenex, move away from the comfort of your bed and get active.

Make a plan and stick to it
I know it sounds strange to make a plan on how to feel better, but it can be done. Giving yourself some goals or practical expectations can help make the road to recovery a lot faster. It thins out the negativity fog that might be blinding you and help you see things a bit more clearly. You don't have to write anything too specific, but just write out a list of what your next steps are.

There are so many things we can do to stay positive in times like these. What things do you do to keep your spirits high?

Let's get social and spread the positivity. If you'd like to play along, take a minute and use hashtag #TeamLetsStayPositive and post your tip on twitter! Over the weekend I will share a few of your tips on here. You can follow me too @mreowlynn

Photo credit here | Text by me

13 comments :

  1. I dread those days, when things go wrong & you feel guilty for feeling bad about it! Hope all is well with you.

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  2. it's been one of those weeks if not for me then the one's closest to me. it's hard to comfort someone when you know they must be feeling terrible and no amount of comfort will get them to feel better. thanks for this post! it's not always pretty things and happy lives, sh*t happens and we have to deal with it.

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  3. Wish I had twitter, I'd be all hashtagging this all over the place.

    Thinking of you and sending you lots of light xx

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  4. GOD THERE IS FOR EVERY SITUATIONS, TROUBLES ...FOR ANITHINGS!!
    I am now following you thanks to follow me!
    I wait for you soon!
    Kisses from Rome
    Federica
    smartchicdietreadbooksandfly.blogspot.it

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  5. No matter how positive of a person you are, sometimes you just have to let yourself be sad and cry. It's been that kind of week for me too, and while hearing from my friends helps, sometimes you just need to deal with things in your own way. I hope the weekend turns things around for you!

    Alyssa
    The Glossy Life

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  6. I hear you! It's hard to be positive when things are going terribly. I go through a lot of moments like these, and while some times it can't be changed, I find that focusing on the GOOD things can help a lot. Staying busy and focusing on new projects always helps me, too!

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  7. I agree that you should allow yourself to feel sad and to mope, for a reasonable amount of time. Sometimes a good cry is the perfect cure! :)

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

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  8. Optimism is so important! Circumstances are unpredictable, but for me, having my hope rooted in God helps me face every situation (even difficult, trying, painful ones) with an unshakable peace. xoxo

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  9. I agree with Angel Swanson. Optimism is so important.




    xoxo, Agata
    agatillaa.blogspot.com

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  10. I love the point about going for a run. A little fresh air does wonders.

    xx Jenee C.
    {camo meets couture}

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  11. there's somethin to be said for letting your body recharge. it's essential to dusting yourself and starting again with hope.

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  12. These are all great tips! The power of positive thinking is stronger than most people realize.

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  13. What a great quote! Thank you for the inspiration. x, Kat

    Love and Ace

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